Wednesday, April 9, 2008

Happiness in nobody"s monopoly

Why do some people always seem happy and other not ?Is it really a question of circumstances?
Are they happy because their life is better, because they have more luck, and they just don't have as many worries and upsets?
Or is it more a questions of disposition, there nature, and character?
Could it be that some people are genetically wired to be happy no matter what?
Humanity, through its years of existence, has tried to crack the code to happiness, more so to define what it actually is? Fortunately for us, psychology in its serious research-based examination of human happiness has shown conclusively that happiness can be understood.
Psychologists define happiness as a long-term sense of emotional well -being and contentment- a general "feeling " that one is happy. Thus happiness is an overall feeling of satisfaction with life . Knowing what "happiness is" is important, but it is also important to recognise what "happiness is not " Things most people think of happiness as things like lots of money, in my family life, a great career, having love, etc.
But these things by themseves are not happiness. They can surely contribute to your happiness.
In an attempt to understand what happiness is and how to attain it, one might end up wondering whether happiness is all that important that we are investing so much time and energy trying to understand it and making all the effort to augment it.
But it is not all that futile as it seems because research-based evidence clearly points to its obvious benefits.
A recent study found that people who are happy, lively and calm or exhibit other positive emotions are less likely to become ill when they are exposed to a cold virus than would be expected from objective measures of their illness.
If you're not naturally a glass half -full persons, you may be able to learn to be more optimistic - and improve your health.
  • Stop negative self talk .When you catch yourself thinking that you won't enjoy an event or do well on a project, stop the thought. Instead, identify the positive in the situation.
  • If you're irritated with your spouse or partner, think back to those qualities that you found so attractive when you fell in love. Keep those qualities in the forefront of your mind.
  • Find joy in your work .No matter what kind of job it is, find some aspect that's personally satisfying.
  • Surround yourself with positive, upbeat people.
  • Deal with situations that you can control, and try to accept those you can't.
  • Put things in perspective. Life may take you on difficult paths. try to find the adventure. A bump in the road is only temporary.
  • Each day, write down three positive things that happened that day as well as speculations about way those good things happened.
We all can find happiness if we try and work hard. So never say that happiness is a word you can only dream of finding. Go, be happy and live a life you want.

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